Everything Affects Everything!
A few days back I was watching a TV series named “13 reasons why”. The story revolves around a girl named Hannah Baker, who commits suicide because of a chain of tragic events. This series was so engaging, I binge-watched it in just two days. However, I do that with every TV series.
Impressed with the series, like I always do, I recommended this to my friends. Told everyone how good the series was and it was a must watch. It turns out, that some friends do take your recommendation seriously. There is this quality in me, I usually seek a good review for my recommendations. I get into detailed discussions, so much that one would feel I myself was behind the production or direction. So, two friends who I made recommendations to, watched the show and said they liked it. Even though the reviews seemed positive, there was something common in their remarks. They said, “Hannah was a dumb person.” After which I realized that I thought the same thing while watching the series. I believed it was stupid of her to commit silly mistakes and to top it all, make creepy tapes about those incidents. Dumb! Yeah, she was.
Or was she?
There was this beautiful line in one of the episodes, “You don’t know what goes on in anyone’s life but your own. And when you mess with one part of a person’s life, you’re not messing with just that part. Unfortunately, you can’t be that precise and selective. When you mess with one part of a person’s life, you’re messing with their entire life. Everything affects everything.” Says enough?
Well, whether or not Hannah was dumb, is not really what we should be thinking of. After all it’s all fictional, made for the purpose of entertainment. But it does convey a very important message. People need to realize that the people they have in their lives, no matter how small their role, from a peon at office or a waiter at a restaurant, the way you treat them does matter. If your actions could affect a random person you bump into on the streets, then the extent of how majorly it can affect a person of importance, is unimaginable.
I know how it feels to lose self-belief just because of how people who were close to me, treated me. The feeling is bad! You tend to close doors for other people at times. But then again, you would want to give a chance, not to others, but to yourself. You would want to try again. And then you would probably face the same consequences, again. And this would go on, just like a cycle, perhaps! Depression does make you do things.
This cycle of mistakes could happen to anybody, it happens to me all the time. So, am I dumb? Maybe!
How you judge me here, depends completely on you!
You won’t be seeing happy faces around you all the time. But you can always make things better, by treating people well because Everything Affects Everything!
Akash Yadav | PGDM Batch 2016-18